Category: nutrition philosophy

 

Stop Giving up before Getting Started

The other day I was having a conversation with one of my personal training clients.  She was getting stronger, losing body fat and basically all the things that personal trainers typically put into the bullet points of the ad copy on their website and flyers.  She’s a hard worker, she works two jobs, she consistently comes in, she puts in the effort, and it’s paying off.  Do the right things, and the right things happen.  

When the right things happen, people start to notice. When people start to notice, they often give compliments and ask questions about “How?”

And when they hear how, they often give up before getting started. 

As she was explaining the training and the nutrition philosophy (slow carb diet, google it…but do it after you finish reading this) they might say things like “Oh I could never give up bread”….or pasta or insert whatever beloved food you enjoy eating that prevents you from reaching your health and fitness goals. And btw, she LOVES doughnuts but understands how delayed gratification will benefit her in the long run.

They are giving up, before getting started.  They are letting the perceived discomfort of what it takes to achieve the goal beat them into submission.  And it’s a shame because giving something up temporarily is not that difficult.  In the case of the slow carb diet, one day a week you can have anything you want, so in essence, you only have to save it for Saturday (the recommended go nuts day).

 

The thing is when you are committed, truly committed you don’t let anything stop you.  You come into it with the mentality of “I’m going to make this happen” and then simply do so.   As my first strongman mentor the late, great New Jersey’s Superman Greg Matonick used to say “Set your mind on what you’re doing.” and then simply do the things necessary to make what’s on your mind into a reality. My current strongman coach Hairculese Chris Rider would say the same thing.

My personal training studio is exclusive, it’s not because I’m some elitist type person on my high horse trying to put a metaphorical velvet rope to keep the peasants out.  It’s because, among other things, I ask people to rate their level of commitment on a scale from 1-10.  If it’s less than the number I’m looking for, it tells me they are not willing to do the things I ask, which is the actions it takes to make their goal a reality.  If they aren’t willing to do that, then they have no business being in my studio and distracting me from my other personal training clients.  It doesn’t matter how much money they are willing to spend if they are stingy with their sweat equity.

You’ve got to be willing to do the things that are in your best interest.  If you are committed but simply don’t know what those things are and are willing to be held accountable to your actions, I’d be happy to teach you. And the guidance, support and accountability I provide work…plain and simple.

Try it out yourself with the personal training trial membership in the small group supportive environment of my studio. Get started by texting me at 973 476 5328 to schedule your session.


Eric Moss is a world record holding professional strongman, author, speaker and personal trainer. In the tradition of the strongmen during the turn of the century, he performs feats of strength such as bending steel and breaking chains as part of a show and speaks on goal achievement for corporations, nonprofits, government as well as for schools and universities. His exclusive personal training studio is in Boonton Township New Jersey with Lewandowski Chiropractic and is close to Mountain Lakes, Denville, and Parsippany New Jersey.

Myths about Self Employment and Strength and Fitness

One of the myths about working for yourself is that you have tons and tons of freedom.  Not really.  Your schedule goes where the market goes and you’re always at work because you don’t really leave it behind. 

In the back of my mind, I plan out new feats of strength.  I got the idea for my “Strongman in the Box” feat by watching an escape artist a year or two ago when my wife took me to see the Illusionists 1903 show.  It also dominates my mind everytime I go to Home Depot.  With every bit of hardware I see I think to myself “Can I break it? and if so, would it be cool in a show?”

Strongman in the Box, I’m trapped inside of a wooden box constructed of 2×4’s and held shut with locks and chains. The only way out is using my strength and breaking out.

I also have a hard time leaving the personal trainer in me at home.  A week or two ago, I was out with my wife and daughter and overheard a conversation about training and had to bite my tongue. I’ve been a personal trainer for around 15 years now, I’ve distinguished myself and was asked to teach at personal training certification courses nationally and internationally, given advice to celebrity trainers, trained people that were on MTV and am a world record holding professional performing strongman.  Basically, I know a thing or two about training. They already know this but I kept quiet because I knew that even if I explained in detail, they simply wouldn’t be ready to hear it.

If you are open minded, keep reading 🙂

Myth

“Strength training makes you inflexible.”

Nope.   Here’s the deal.  Your strength and your flexibility aren’t really about the muscles themselves.  Both of them are regulated by the central nervous system.

Just like this gif illustration shows the central nervous system telling the muscle fibers to “contract”, it can also tell them to “relax” into a longer length. They are like a yin and yang of each other.  Your muscle fibers are already long enough to perform full splits and things that contortionists do, but what stops them is that your central nervous system doesn’t perceive what you are doing as being safe and hence puts the breaks on.  Your nervous system remembers the positions you are in habitually (if you don’t use it you lose it). With regular strength training, alongside regular flexibility training, you don’t have to rob Peter to pay Paul.

Myth

“You need to do lots of different stuff”

Nope, variety in training is overrated.  Everything you do, competes with every other thing you do for growth and adaptation.  The jack of all trades is the master of none.  The high bang for the buck exercises will carry over to the things you don’t regularly train (we call this transfer and it’s the reason athletes have strength and conditioning coaches and not just skill coaches).  Doing heavy deadlifts, transfers to making you better at most things.

Myth, kind of

“You don’t need to lift more than 5lbs”

Technically, yes.  You need food, water, air, and to a certain extent human connection.  You don’t need to lift more than 5lbs to survive…but why just survive when you can thrive?  Thriving is partially about growth, improvement, and expansion.  If you want to change your body, you need to challenge your body.  You need to do something that tells your body “Hey, we need to get stronger so that we are better equipped to handle this (the stimulus) in the future”.  And strength carries over to multiple goals.  Using weight loss as an example, heavier weights burn more calories than lighter weights.  They also deplete more glycogen and tell your body to release more of those hormones that keep you lean.  You don’t “need” to get stronger, but you “should” get stronger if you want to improve yourself.

I also find that many people come to me for weight loss, and they lose weight but are more excited about the all-purpose strength they gained training with me.  And as Mark Rippetoe famously said;

Strong people are harder to kill and more useful in general

If you need help with this, I have a one-week trial membership available.  Text me at 973 476 5328 to get started.


Eric Moss is a world record holding professional strongman, author, speaker and personal trainer. In the tradition of the strongmen during the turn of the century, he performs feats of strength such as bending steel and breaking chains as part of a show and speaks on goal achievement for corporations, nonprofits, government as well as for schools and universities. His exclusive personal training studio is in Boonton Township New Jersey with Lewandowski Chiropractic and is close to Mountain Lakes, Denville, and Parsippany New Jersey.

Competence, Confidence, Commitment for Goal Achievement

It’s been a while since I’ve written on here so I went onto my facebook feed to look for inspiration. Usually, on Facebook, I can find something to talk about since a lot of my friends are fitness professionals, personal trainers etc. In this case, Kevin Yates one of my facebook friends had posted a video about setting and achieving goals and how it plays into our self-confidence when we unknowingly set ourselves up for failure.

“How to lose weight” it gets around 550,000 google searches a month and yet there is no shortage of articles out there making the same promise of “do this, lose weight easily”.  Despite the plethora of information, people continue to gain weight.   You can read more about the increasing rates of obesity in this document by the CDC.

In truth, it’s easy and it’s not.  It really depends on what you make of it.  You see, it might involve more than you think it does and that’s why you need to be committed.  Those people that say “I’m watching what I eat” never really get anywhere because they quite simply aren’t committed to the result.  If you aren’t committed, you settle for less.  Sometimes the result you want takes more than you may think and you have to do more, but at the same time, it may not be as hard as you may think.

One of the big things when it comes to training, nutrition, and fitness is how much of a mental game it really is. When I sit down with potential personal training clients for a goal assessment interview, I ask them to rate their level of commitment to their own goals. If they aren’t committed enough, I will turn them away for the simple fact that if they aren’t really committed, then none of the “how to’s” I show them will ever be enough. The mindset drives all.

Sometimes people seek me out because I’m a professional “motivational speaker”. This isn’t completely accurate. I’m actually an “inspirational speaker”. You see motivation really has to come from within. I can’t make someone want something they don’t want. I can, however, inspire by example. I train like this, look what it’s done for me, look what it’s done for my personal training clients, it can do the same for you. Hopefully, that sets the spark which ignites the fire that burns inside you to take charge of your health. Along with accountability and self-discipline, if that fire burns hot, that will provide the mental fuel you need to get through the times when you just don’t feel like training.

The other part is that confidence and competence are intertwined. There is something called the competence/confidence loop. Basically, what it boils down to, the more competent you are, the more confident you will be. The less competent you are, the less competent you will be.

And confusion will stop an action before it ever gets started.

This is where guidance and support come in. When you know what to do, then you simply do it. As you do it, you get better at it and as you get better at it, you start to enjoy it a little bit. Success is fun. Getting stronger is fun. Getting closer to your goals through the process can sometimes be a drag, it’s fun when you know you are getting somewhere. Having someone there to support you makes it fun. On those days when you don’t feel like it, use the discipline and the social pressure of having someone there expecting you to come in, to carry you through.

If you are committed, and you simply need guidance, support and accountability to get you to your goals, take advantage of my trial membership offer by texting me at 973 476 5328


Eric Moss is a world record holding professional strongman, author, speaker, and personal trainer. In the tradition of the strongmen during the turn of the century, he performs feats of strength such as bending steel and breaking chains as part of a show and speaks on goal achievement for corporations, nonprofits, government as well as for schools and universities. His exclusive personal training studio is in Boonton Township New Jersey with Lewandowski Chiropractic and is close to Mountain Lakes, Denville, and Parsippany New Jersey.